Most question lists fail for the same reason: they ask something enormous ("what is your greatest fear?") to two people who have had a long day. The answer is a shrug, and the list goes back in the drawer.
These are smaller on purpose. Each one can be answered in a sentence, and each one leaves a door open. Pick one, answer it separately, then compare — that gap between your two answers is where the conversation actually starts.
Questions about today (14)
Best for a normal Tuesday, when nothing happened and you still want to talk.
- What moment today made you miss your partner the most?
- What do you two want to do together tonight?
- What song reminded you of your partner today?
- If you could teleport to your partner right now, what would you do first?
- What's one thing your partner did recently that made you smile?
- What emoji best describes your mood about your relationship today?
- If you could cook any meal for your partner tonight, what would it be?
- What's something small your partner does that always makes your day better?
- What would you rate today on a scale of 1-10 and why?
- If your partner could read your mind right now, what would they find?
- What's one thing you wish you told your partner today but didn't?
- What's the highlight of your week so far with your partner?
- If you had 30 free minutes together right now, how would you spend them?
- What's a random thought about your partner that popped into your head today?
Questions about how you started (10)
These get the best answers when you disagree. Two people almost never remember the same first date.
- What was your first impression of your partner when you met?
- When was the first time you ate together, and what did you have?
- What's the funniest thing that happened on your first date?
- When did you first realize you had feelings for your partner?
- What's the first gift you ever gave each other?
- What's a trip or adventure you took together that you'll never forget?
- What's the most embarrassing moment you've shared as a couple?
- What's the first movie or show you watched together?
- What was the moment you knew this relationship was serious?
- What's a challenge you overcame together that made you stronger?
Questions that test how well you know them (10)
Answer these about your partner, then let them mark your work. It's the fastest way to find the small things you had wrong for years.
- What's your partner's go-to comfort food when they're feeling down?
- What stresses your partner out the most at work or school?
- What's your partner's love language? Give an example.
- What's the one thing your partner is most insecure about?
- What does your partner do when they need alone time?
- What's your partner's biggest pet peeve?
- What makes your partner laugh the hardest?
- What's your partner's dream job if money didn't matter?
- How does your partner act when they're secretly upset but won't say it?
- What's the best way to cheer your partner up after a bad day?
Questions about what comes next (10)
Useful if you're long-distance and need something to point at that isn't the distance.
- Where do you dream of living together someday?
- What pet would you love to raise together?
- What's a trip you absolutely have to take together?
- How do you imagine a typical weekend together in 5 years?
- What's one skill you'd love to learn together as a couple?
- If you could design your dream home together, what's the must-have room?
- What tradition do you want to create for your future together?
- What's a goal you want to achieve together in the next year?
- If you could start a business together, what would it be?
- What kind of wedding vibe do you imagine — big party, intimate, destination?
Questions for a softer night (6)
Warm, not heavy. Good for the end of a call.
- What's the most attractive thing about your partner?
- What's your ideal date night with your partner?
- What outfit of your partner's drives you absolutely crazy?
- What's the most romantic thing your partner has ever done for you?
- If you could relive one kiss with your partner, which one would it be?
- What's a physical feature of your partner you can't stop staring at?
What to do with the answers
Write them down somewhere you both can see. A year in, the value isn't the question — it's reading what you both said last March and realising how much has moved.
That's the part Bonbon does for you: one question each evening, both answers kept side by side, and a counter for how many nights you've both shown up. If you'd rather keep a list in your notes app, that works too — the habit matters more than the tool.
Next: A long-distance date night that isn't another video call.
